A lot of people had a question about my last post on my improbable success in building a daily meditation habit.
Specifically, they wanted to know what was so special about that iPhone app I used to get started?
Change is inevitable and constant, but that doesn’t mean we’re good at accepting it.
In fact, we’re pretty bad.
Most change is imposed against our will, and that’s unsettling. As kids we cope with change pretty well, but as we age we get stuck in ruts.
My friend has this way of evaluating things, which she calls the “Is It Worth It Factor.”
For example, many men cheat on their spouses or girlfriends. But some of those men figure out that, in the long run, the volcanic drama that eventually ensues isn’t worth it.
The “Is It Worth It Factor” is not limited to the male propensity towards infidelity. It’s about cultivating heightened awareness, based on experience.
What we call wisdom might just be a skill.
Maybe the key skill for wisdom is being always ready to evaluate the endless stream of impulses, temptations, and expectations that present themselves to us.
The skill is to evaluate that stream of mental flotsam by asking the simple question: is it worth it?
What kinds of things have you found to be not worth it? Hit the comments below and share your wisdom.
One key skill in life is learning how to be happy. The first (and, for many, the hardest) lesson is that: things and people don’t make you happy. Or at least not for long. If you want happiness that lasts you need to learn to manufacture it yourself.
If you’re shrugging that last statement off, then I feel bad for you. You have a lot to learn. We all have a lot to learn about how to create, and maintain, an upbeat state of mind. There are lots of ways to learn this.
I think that the trick to learning to creating your own happiness isn’t so much finding the right system, as much as it is practicing the moment to moment mindfulness that’s needed to shed the common tendency we all have to quickly find fault with life.
If you need a quick guide to help you get started, though, I think this short blog post by Scott Adams is pretty pithy. After you read Adam’s excellent prescription you still need to practice the regular mindfulness, which really means seeing the positive in life as opposed to the negative. For that I recommend you check out the blog called 1000 Awesome Things.